Accepting Personal Responsibility

By Joel Austin

In a fatherhood session I was conducting the other night, the fathers started off with that _________ and that _________. I stopped midsession and said we are going to try something new. Anytime we are to refer to our spouses, girlfriends, mothers of children, and ex’s we must start with “the woman I chose.”

So I started, because a teacher leads by example. “The woman I chose,” told me that my daughter would be out of town last weekend, and then my daughter called me and said she was bored. I asked, “Where are you? She said, “Home alone.” Eventually, I ended up picking her up. It was the reason why, “the woman I chose” would say something untrue that upset me.

What happened next was a miracle. The entire room became quiet, a revelation. We now had to shift all questions, all pain, all hurt, all feelings, and all responsibility to our first encounter with “the woman I chose.”

Understand that women allow us in, but we pursue to be let in, it’s called courting or dating. Why did we choose her? Why did we choose to pursue her? What do I have to do to make sure I do not choose this type of woman again? Was it her laugh? Was it her conversation? Or was it the 6 inch heels? Either way it quickly changed from venting, and complaining, into looking at self and explaining.

It is important to look at the path that brought you to pleasure or pain, because they equally show you to where your actions are leading you.

For some men in the group stating “the woman I chose”, reminded them of the inner beauty and the friendship they fell in love with. The meeting went on for hours. We could not stop examining our part in these situations we are now in. All day I hear, “Men are like this.” “Women are like this.” And they are all true.

The simple truth is; they are the women and men YOU choose.

All responses are welcome.

Joel Austin,President/CEO

Daddy UniverseCity Inc.

info@daddyuniv.com