Black Folks and Spanking: Where Do You Stand?
Clutch magazine’s Kirsten West Savali wrote an interesting article about why many black parents resist the science that says hitting children is not the best thing to do. I have NEVER advocated “hitting” children. I think the only message you are sending when you do that is “I’m bigger than you and I can beat you up.” There are other times when you hit a child out of frustration. That’s not good either.
I’m not against an occasional “popping” on the hand, but I am against whippings, beatings and slaps. My wife and I raised two young men into adult and NEVER had to resort to whippings and beatings when they were children. And we did not raise “bad” kids who “talked back” and threw a bunch of temper tantrums. By all accounts we raised two very well-mannered and respectful young men.
I know firsthand, how it feels be hit and beaten with a belt that leave visible marks and scars on your body. One can argue that I turned out OK. I’ve never been in trouble with the law, I don’t drink and never used drugs–NEVER. Trust me, my being a model citizen had nothing to do with being whipped and beaten.
My friends ridicule and tease me mercilessly for my belief that black folks whipping and beating their children can be traced back to slavery. Their parents, grandparents and great grandparents were whipped and they are just continuing the tradition. I say STOP it!
There’s another school of thought that says black folks spanking their children is a part of our culture, much like fried chicken and Kool-Aid. OK? And your point is what?
There are many reasons for corporal punishment. I chose to break the cycle when I became a parent.