|7 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW TO PREPARE THE FAMILY TO VOTE IN 2012!
3. VOTE EARLY or Absentee Ballot if you know you will be out of town on Election Day.
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6. STAND YOUR GROUND – if there is a problem at the polls you have a right to cast a provisional ballot if you are certain you are a registered voter.
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I REMEMBER EMANUEL STEWARD: FAST and FURIOUS—A PRINCE AMONG THIEVES!
By Harold Bell
The out pouring of love showered on Emanuel Steward after his surprising and sudden death was well earned. His death shocked the boxing world. He was a genius in the confines and corners of a boxing ring on any given night or day.
He was affectionately known as Manny to some but I preferred to call him Emanuel (I liked Emanuel because it was biblical).
His friend and colleague the late boxing historian Bert Sugar once described him as being “The Energizing Bunny” of professional boxing. To me he was much like the character starring in the epic television series Richard Boone “Have Gun Will Travel,” instead of a gun he had boxing gloves. Emanuel was always just a telephone call and plane ride away from his next boxing assignment.
There was always some champion, former or potential champion who needed to have his “Mojo” fixed and he was the man often called on to fix it!
His roots were in West Virginia but his heart was in the Motor City of Detroit. He moved to the city with his mother when he was 12 years old.
Emanuel easily adapted to the bright lights and big city of Detroit. He quickly learned the language of the streets. He became a boxing hustler of young men in the good sense of the word.
He had an outstanding amateur boxing career with 94 wins and 3 losses and he quickly learned pro boxing was not his calling and turned to coaching. The rest is boxing history.
The three biggest institutions in Detroit in the 70s and 80s were General Motors headed by Lee Iacocca, Motown Records headed by Berry Gordy and the Kronk Boxing Gym headed by Emanuel Steward.
I met Emanuel in the late 70s when he was making his mark as one of the great trainers and forces to be reckoned with in boxing.
U. S. A. amateur boxing. The first thing that attracted me to him was his outgoing personality which made everyone around him a friend. It took him a little while to warm up to me.
My personal relationship with Emanuel grew out my friendship with his partner Prentis Byrd. Whenever I would enter in their space Emanuel would yell, “Prentis, here comes your man Harold Bell” and this big smile would break out on his face!
Emanuel knew I was closely attached to Sugar Ray Leonard and maybe this was his way of saying “no secrets discussed please.”
There was definitely a distinct difference in the two camps. The Kronk Gym was built on a foundation of love, family and loyalty. Team Leonard’s foundation was built on one of mistrust, lies, theft and “Player Hating.”
Emanuel was flawed like most human beings. He was not tall, but he was dark and handsome and two out of three is not bad.
These characteristics along with his taste for fashion, quick wit and infectious smile made him a lady’s man. He had a girl in every port. He never saw a crap table he didn’t like and a pipe he could not smoke.
This was the fast and furious world of boxing, but these character flaws did not make him a bad human being, but I do think they shorten his life. I had his cell phone number and it was very seldom that I called when he was not on the run to an airport or meeting. It seems like he always had a cold; we would be talking and he would be sneezing and coughing. I would say “Emanuel you have got to slow down and take better care of yourself.” His response was often, “I am okay. I will call you when I get back in town.”
His heart was as big as the boxing ring when it came to his fighters and the people he loved. He would literally give you the shirt off of his back (if he had not already lost it).
I remember after one fight in Vegas when Tommy’s younger brother Billy got a hot hand at the crap table. Emanuel and Tommy walked away with a bundle (I won over $1,000 betting scared)!
On the way to get something to eat he put another $1,000 in my jacket pocket.
It was business as usual for him to take one of the fighters off of the mean streets of Detroit. His home would become their home. According to him, this and other missteps cost him his first marriage.
Television personality Geraldo Rivera once described the world of pro boxing as a place where the rats were bigger than the lions (Don King).
There was a lot of stress connected with Emanuel’s boxing success. For example; I remember one year in Atlantic City he was working the corner of Mike Tyson for Don King Promotions. After the fight Don had him running back and forth to his room and made him wait in line for his money.
When you work for DK (Don King) there are a whole lot of mind games played devised by him and a lot of going along to get along!
Emanuel often had money problems and during preparation for the Tyson fight he asked DK for and got a “Pay Day Loan.” Big mistake. After the fight DK acted accordingly–like a jackass. Despite his human flaws, Emanuel Steward was one of “The Good Guys.”
His very first champion out of the Kronk gym was Hilmer Kenty (a gentleman and class act). However, his crown jewel and meal ticket was the warrior known as “The Hit Man” the one and only Thomas Hearns.
I was in Detroit covering the fights when Hilmer and Tommy won their first titles. Tommy and Emanuel were as close as brothers. They were like shoes and socks, one could not go anywhere without the other!
Hilmer stopped Ernesto Espana in the 9th round in March 1980 to win the Lightweight World title at Joe Louis Arena in downtown Detroit.
Five months later I would return to Detroit to watch Tommy knock out Pipino Cuevas in two rounds to win the Welterweight title.
It was during this visit to Detroit I would introduce Emanuel to my friend Wayne Davis who was the Director of the FBI field office in Detroit. Wayne and I had become fast friends when he was working in DC during the late 60s. It was that same time period I was working in the streets with youth gangs for the DC Recreation Department.
I knew Wayne and Emanuel would like each other because of their outgoing personalities. Neither man was a phony in any sense of of the word.
Wayne would later write and thank me for introducing him to Emanuel.
When I became a trusted member of the Kronk Family Gym it was nothing for Emanuel or Prentis to call me and say “Harold we are going to be in DC this week and we are bringing Tommy and Hilmer, line something up for us to do in the community!”
I think they got a kick out of coming to DC and pissing Sugar Ray Leonard off and exposing him for forgetting who he was and where he came from!
In 2007 at the 37th Annual Christmas toy party for needy children we honored Emanuel with the Kids In Trouble, Inc., Life Time Achievement Award for his support of Inside Sports and our many community endeavors.
Emanuel had a lot in common with the great boxing guru the late Angelo Dundee. They both were class acts and generous with their time. Emanuel was definitely the Godfather of boxing in the Motor City.
When Emanuel’s passing was officially announced, words of love came in from around the world.
HBO Sports president Ken Hershman said, “There are no adequate words to describe the enormous degree of sadness and loss we feel at HBO Sports with the tragic passing of Manny Steward. For more than a decade, Manny was a respected colleague who taught us so much not only about the sweet science but also about friendship and loyalty. His energy, enthusiasm and bright smile were a constant presence. Ten bells do not seem enough to mourn his passing. His contributions to the sport and to HBO will never be forgotten. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family.”
Washingtonian and Detroit Mayor Dave Bing said, “With the loss of Emanuel Steward, we have lost a true Detroit icon. Emanuel Steward embodied our city’s toughness, our competitive spirit, and our determination to always answer the bell. We are grateful for Emanuel Steward’s many contributions to our city and his impact on generations of young people.”
There were words of condolences from former heavyweight champions, George Foreman and Lennox Lewis and reigning heavyweight champion Wladimir Klitschko.
George said, “Boy if only we knew we had such a short time to laugh and celebrate Manny. Such a simple and kind man. The sports world will miss him. Not to mention boxing.”
Klitschko said, “I will miss our time together. The long talks we had about boxing, the world, and life itself. Most of all I will miss our friendship, rest in peace Emanuel.”
“(My brother) Vitali and I, along with the entire Team Klitschko, send our deepest and most heartfelt condolences to Emanuel’s family and friends,” Wladimir Klitschko said in a statement. “It is not often that a person in any line of work gets a chance to work with a legend. Well I was privileged enough to work with one for almost a decade.
“I will miss our time together,” Klitschko said. “The long talks about boxing, the world, and life itself but most of all I will miss our friendship. You will be greatly missed.
My team and I will carry on with the goals we had set while Emanuel was with us because that is exactly what Emanuel would have wanted. I know he will be with us in spirit along the way and we will accomplish these goals in his honor, until we meet again my friend.”
Klitschko, is training in Austria for a November 10 title defense against Mariusz Wach, knew the gravity of Steward’s illness and was forced this week to announce a replacement for Steward for the fight, tapping Steward Disciple and pro heavyweight Johnathon Banks, a Kronk Gym product.
Emanuel began working with Klitschko in 2004, and their first fight resulted in a knockout loss to Lamon Brewster. But under Steward’s steady hand, Klitschko rebuilt himself into a heavyweight force and one of the most dominant heavyweight champions in history.
He got a lot of the credit for helping Klitschko mentally as much as he did for training him physically. Klitschko and Steward shared a close bond that went deeper than simply trainer and fighter.
The words of Lennox Lewis I think summed up the feelings of those who knew and loved Emanuel Steward when he said: “I’m completely devastated by the passing of my long time friend, mentor and trainer Emanuel ‘Manny’ Steward, Manny has helped me get through some of the biggest fights in my career and I only regret that I couldn’t return the favor and see him through his biggest fight.
We’ve maintained a close relationship and the last time we spoke he seemed his usual upbeat self so it was very disturbing to hear about his illness and rapid decline. It is with a heavy heart that the realization of what I hoped were just rumors, are now in fact true. Manny always told me I was the best, but the truth is, he was the best and I’m grateful, privileged and honored to be counted among his many historic successes. We’ve truly lost one of boxing’s crown jewels. Manny was giving, selfless, compassionate and stern. He always gave back to the community and never forgot where he came from. He was an institution unto himself and I’m proud to have had him in my corner for so many years.
I’m extremely grateful for the time that I was given with him and he will be severely missed by all who knew and loved him. I’ll miss his smile, his frank no-holds-barred truthfulness and our discussions on boxing and life. My prayers and condolences go out to his family at this very difficult time.”
In this time where a lot of attention is being focused on sports figures and their struggle with finances, I hope Emanuel’s decade long employment with HBO, his relationship with Lennox Lewis and the Klitschko brothers will mitigate any potential financial woes.
Muhammad Ali, I think described Emanuel best. I remember asking Ali how he distinguished his true friends. Ali said: “Friends are like our shadows they are with you as long as you are in the sun, but once you cross over into the shade your shadow disappears. A friend is always doing something for you and never expecting anything in return.” Sounds a lot like my friend Emanuel Steward!
Harold Bell is the Godfather of Sports Talk radio and television in Washington, DC. Throughout the mid-sixties, seventies and eighties, Harold embarked upon a relatively new medium–sports talk radio with classic interviews with athletes and sports celebrities. The show and format became wildly popular. Harold has been an active force fighting for the rights of children for over 40 years with the help of his wife through their charity Kids In Trouble, Inc. To learn more about Harold Bell visit his official web site The Original Inside Sports.com.
BY MIKE RAMEY
Out of Detroit, a web clip surfaced showing a gas station being ‘overrun’ by local teens who have decided to make the station their ‘hang out’, scaring away business for the owner. The true bottom line of the story rests with two parties: The teens and their parents. Web and blog comments don’t matter when there is a collapse of parental responsibility.
The economic ignorance of teens and adults of our modern era is tragic. Taxes are paid are generated by people who go to WORK daily. MOST of the jobs in the USA, your state, and your city are generated by small business owners, NOT by the government. IF teens are allowed to ‘vent’ their frustrations today, and IF their parents allow them to continue, few employers–Black, brown or white–will be sticking around ‘the hood’ to employ anyone tomorrow.
The same can be said for education. IF students ARE NOT motivated by their parents they WILL NOT achieve in the classroom. The teacher can OFFER your child knowledge, and teach them skills. However, IF the parent decides to abdicate their responsibilities, a student can be placed in a gold classroom with a diamond desk and silver computer–and still not be able to read, write or count!
A teacher can take you child to the academic fountain, but only the HOME can teach their child to drink, and motivate that same child to swim–even if it’s upstream.
AN ARTICLE AND A STUDY:
A few years back, I happened across a study concerning academic achievement and Black students. The article on the study was so insightful that I like to refer to it in those times when I hear how ‘unfair’ the ‘system’ is towards African American youth. The study was done by a Black researcher, and is available at Amazon.com. The formal title of the work, in book form is: “Black American Students in an Affluent Suburb: A Study of Academic Disengagement,” by the late Dr. John U. Ogbu, a University of California at Berkeley Anthropology Professor. It was published in 2003.
There are far too many of us that like to believe that we–as a people–will never be able to achieve anything noteworthy. Let me offer some food for thought. Just because the ‘good’ news never seems to hit the newscasts or newspapers about our young Black men and women does not mean that we have to rely upon ‘majority culture interpretation’. IF other races can achieve…we can TOO! WE have to make sure OUR people are truly on duty in the home, and not just ‘hooked up’ to the entertainment system, taking their daily six to eight hours of ‘rump shaker’ trash intravenously.
SOMETIMES THE SOLUTION IS IN THE MIRROR:
In one ‘Geico’ commercial Mrs. Lincoln asked her husband, ‘Honest Abe’ about her figure in a dress…THEN stomps off out of the bedroom fuming when her husband tells the truth about her shape! Life lesson learned? Folks, no matter how much they say they ‘want’ the truth, can’t, don’t or even won’t handle it when it is right in front of them.
Back in the 1990s, Shaker Heights, Ohio, was a hip, happening suburb of Cleveland, Ohio. It had a sizeable, affluent
Black population, a great school system–and failing Black students. Things were so bad in the classroom that–according to a high school newspaper at the time–Black students had an average GPA (grade point average) of 1.9, while White students had an average GPA of 3.45. Furthermore, Black students were simply not cutting it in other academic areas, ranging from standardized test scores to enrollment in advanced placement coursework.
Of course, many of the Black parents–who were college educated themselves AND had high-powered careers–FREAKED! They reasoned–they ‘gave’ their kids everything! Why weren’t the offspring of the Black ‘best and the brightest’ achieving?
“It must have been some kind of intentional, systematic racism”, they thought. Some of the Black parents banded
together and sought outside help to make sense of the underachievement issue. They begged Dr. Ogbu to come and help.
At first, Ogbu, a Nigerian native, was apprehensive. However, he and a research assistant eventually came to Shaker Heights, Ohio in 1997, lived in the community for the better part of a year and made an in-depth study of the school system, the students, the parents, and everything in between. It took Ogbu and his team three years to crunch the numbers, and compile the data. Before the study was published in book form, he gave the parents a full year to respond to his findings. According to a lengthy article written on the study by Susan Goldsmith (which is still available on line in various parts of cyberspace) no parent ever responded to the work before it was published.
OGBU INVESTIGATES: THE TRUTH DOESN’T RESONATE:
One of the bottom line facts I have found out about life is that many people clamor for truth, only to rail against it when it surfaces. Even though Ogbu’s study was published nearly ten years ago, some of the results STILL stand out:
*Some affluent Black parents expected their merely moving to Shaker Heights to translate into improved academic progress of their children without their involvement. By ‘moving on up’ without keeping ‘parental pressure’ on their kids to achieve in the classroom, failure became not only an option, it became–a fact!
*Without Black parental involvement and pressure on their OWN kids, the ‘myth’ among young people that ‘achievement was a sign of acting white’ spread like wildfire, manifesting in lousy grades, dropping test scores and a host of other academic maladies.
*Lastly, in the classroom, there WAS a different treatment pattern by teachers towards Black and white students. Ogbu found that the cause for different treatment patterns centered in the fact that many Black students failed to complete assigned work and homework, while many of their white counterparts did. Thus, in the matter of performance and adhering to deadlines those who did not do their work did not reap better grades!
While Dr. Ogbu passed away a few years ago, his work will continue to speak for him–and to us–for years to come. It caused–and continues to cause–a LOT of controversy…ranging from sociologists who said that he ‘didn’t’ have the ‘credentials’ to properly do the study; to parents who ‘broke their silence’ after the study was made public, to those who stand to gain the most from the lack of Black responsibility–the ‘race hustlers’. Dr. Ogbu’s study unearthed more than a few unpleasant truths.
The central question: Now that we know, are we willing to DO what is necessary to reverse our own failures? Or, will we be content to follow the ‘advice’ from the ‘race hustlers’ over the cliff to our own destruction–while they line their pockets?
Why aren’t the children of our villages achieving? Read the article. Read the study. Let your kids read them as well, and discuss it with them.
Then re-introduce yourself to them as their parent (or parents) and start making academic demands of them.
People jumped on Bill Cosby a few years back when he wondered why many homes could afford the latest in electronic gear, but wouldn’t spend the money necessary for “Hooked On Phonics.”
The success of our Black youth hangs in the balance.
The REST of the world is not going to wait for your ‘precious baby’ to get his or her track shoes on to compete. They will be MORE than happy to run on and nab the brass rings of earning potential, jobs, and relationships while your child FAILS. Put another way; those IN the education system WILL motivate THEIR children to succeed. YOUR child is viewed as an ‘optional achiever’ to some of the same teachers who have ‘complained’ and went on strike about their ‘poor pay’ and working conditions while THEIR kids are enrolled in better schools and are turning in their work on time.
YOUR child is mentally starving to death daily in rooms full of academic food!
Dr. Ogbu said it best in his roadmap to academic freedom. The realities of academic progress MUST be stressed in the home…NOT learned via social media nor in the streets. Parental involvement at home WILL determine the types of grades brought home, and will cause our youth to strive to own businesses…not just ‘hang out’ at them.
RAMEY, a syndicated columnist and book reviewer, lives in Indianapolis, Indiana. THE RAMEY COMMENTARIES appears on fine websites/blogs around the world. Email firstname.lastname@example.org. © 2012, 2013 Mike Ramey/Barnstorm Communications.
By William Reed
A “power politics” move is currently at play that could set the stage for the end of the world. What is your perspective on whether Iran is seeking a nuclear weapon? Or, are Americans, President Barack Obama, and the Western world being bum rushed into military adventurism? Do you understand that the fate of the species is at stake?
Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad says Israel is “bullying the United States” over the alleged threat of an Iranian nuclear weapon; using the prospect of an Israeli military attack on Iran to force President Obama into military action. Considered “persona non grata” among Westerners, at the 67th U.N. General Assembly in New York City, Ahmadinejad made what is likely his final address to the world body. As in previous years, Ahmadinejad assailed the United States, Israel and Europe, and called for a new world order. He also said, “Americans should be insulted if their government takes marching orders from Israel.” Ahmadinejad’s perspective is that Israel has no rightful place in the Middle East and is “an inconsequential interloper.” Ahmadinejad’s assessment is that “a few occupying Zionists” are telling the U.S. and President Obama “what to do” concerning Iran’s nuclear issues.
The U.S. Senate just voted 90-1 to support the Israeli position, but to be fair, Ahmadinejad made valid points worth considering. For decades, the U.S. has been at Israel’s beck and call. During recent months, Israel has stepped up threats of a unilateral strike on Iran’s nuclear facilities. With the U.S. Congress on its side and elections just weeks away, the pro-Israel lobby is exerting concentrated pressure on Washington to lay down certain “red lines” before Iran. It is with a high level of chutzpah that Israel, which is not a signatory to the Nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty [NPT], is threatening an NPT signatory state for supposedly not complying with the treaty. Also, according to U.S. intelligence estimates, Iran is “not on the verge of having a nuclear weapon” and has “not made a decision to pursue one.”
President Obama is “being bullied” by a premiere power in American politics and popular culture, because he continues to resist military adventures for Israel. Ralph Bunche, an African American, was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1950, for agreements he brought about that started the new state of Israel. Since then, Israel has regularly violated international laws and defied numerous U.N. resolutions.
Most of the world opposes Israel’s policies, and especially its oppression of the Palestinians. Kofi Annan, a Ghanaian who served as the seventh secretary-general of the United Nations, said, “The whole world demands that Israel withdraw from occupied Palestinian territories.” But on these shores, politicians and the media fervently support Israel. For decades, the U.S. provided Israel with critical military, diplomatic and financial backing, including more than $3 billion each year in aid. For more than 60 years, Black politicians who call themselves the “conscience of Congress” have been reliable supporters of Israeli issues and practices.
Though Blacks oppose any criticism of Obama, the Israeli lobby openly castigates the President.Amid tension between the U.S. and Israel over Iran’s nuclear ambitions, Israeli-supporters criticize President Obama for “failing to put Israel at ease.” When Obama addressed the U.N. General Assembly, he issued a stern warning to Iran, but stopped short of drawing the “red lines” Israel Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu demanded.
Some segments of America’s population are saying Obama has “insulted and disrespected Israel.” Through it all, Obama continues to have most Jewish voters on his side. People who say they “have the president’s back” refuse to allow any criticism of Obama will be shocked when they see the Republican Jewish Coalition’s $6.5 million campaign to convince Jewish voters that it’s OK to vote against Obama because of the “defiant” stance he has taken on Israeli-Palestinian issues.
It’s time to make peace in the Middle East. Instead of a new war front, Obama needs encouragement and support toward taking fair and measured actions on this issue.
(William Reed is president of the Business Exchange Network and available for projects via the BaileyGroup.org)
By Gary A. Johnson
Over the years when people ask me about my opinion of the programming on Black Entertainment Television (BET) my response has been something along the following lines: “BET’s programming is so dreadful and intellectually insulting that I haven’t watched anything on the network in years. I suggest they change the name to “Blacks Embarrassing Themselves (BET).”
WHO: Beyond Mask Expressions presents The Art and Drama Therapy Institute’s 8th Annual concert featuring the Institute’s Inspirational Choir and Moroccan Ensemble.
WHAT: The performance will include a duet with Brian Slaughter and Yahzareh performing “At Last.” “Marvin Gaye” will be performed by Kevin Christian. The Inspirational Choir and Moroccan Ensemble will also perform songs that have been recorded by Lou Rawls, James Brown, Michael Jackson, Edwin Hawkins, James Cleveland and Chuck Brown.
WHEN: Thursday, October 18, 2012 at 7:00 pm
WHERE: The historic Lincoln Theater, 1215 “U” Street, NW, Washington, DC 20009
Tickets to the concert are free and can be picked up at the Lincoln Theater box office.
The Art and Drama Therapy Institute (ADTI) is a medically supervised, therapeutic day treatment center for adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities. The institute’s innovative approach for the care and treatment of adults with these disabilities through the use of art, music movement and drama therapies along with innovative behavior management techniques, has been hailed by the President’s Committee for People With Intellectual Disabilities and The Washington Post as “a national model.”
The media are invited to attend.
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By Darryl James
Ev·o·lu·tion: any process of formation or growth; development
Whenever humans want to do something divergent from what is “traditional,” the first route of making things easier to digest is to call it “evolution.”
Sometimes, it is evolution. For example, eliminating slavery was growth toward man’s humanity to man. Abuse and evil are things to be evolved away from.
Garnering parity within the national community for all citizens is evolution for America, even though we’re not there yet.
But sometimes, people label something evolution or revolution, and its frankly, the opposite, or just stagnation.
Take the so-called “sexual revolution” for example. Without any real “evolution,” it was just something people did. Since that era, there has been more sex, but no real growth in ideas about sex and/or sexuality–just chaos and confusion. Particularly, since the results are arguably negative and backward, which is a sign of de-evolution.
Have we arrived at a place where we can exchange sex freely without connecting it to anything?
The answer can only be determined by examining what once was and what currently is.
In the 60’s people talked about a sexual revolution with the lie of “free love,” but all that happened was the de-evolution of love and relationships as people began to sex more and marry less, because hooking up for sex has become more important than connecting for love. That’s not evolution, that’s de-evolution.
And let’s be honest, men can be whores, because they don’t seek the same needs from a sexual encounter as women—the need to be valued, honored, respected, loved and cherished. Human females have always expected those things when allowing a man to take advantage of their sexuality. Most still want it today—even after participating in free love, hence the pursuit of redefining “whore.”
So what happens when the sex is given and no connection is given in exchange?
Frankly, women and children cannot afford the wages of sexual freedom.
More children raised by single parents is not evolution. More women growing old and alone without companionship and/or protection is not evolution. The world can change and be cold and cruel, but evolution is supposed to be about making us into something better. Sexing more with wider spread of disease and less comfort is not evolution.
Things are worse, not better.
And, while some women want men to make peace with female whorishness, they themselves have difficulty with it. Women rarely revere whores and many go to great lengths to disguise their whorish past, speaking hypothetically about whores they know who should be given freedom.
Participating in discussions with women who want random and prolific sexual proclivities to be recognized as evolution and not just plain whorishness gives another example of the misuse of evolution. Particularly when some of those same women express regret over pursuing lust instead of love, and exchanging sex for gifts or for nothing at all, only to end up with no human emotional attachment after the “freedom” has been expressed.
Things have changed, but that doesn’t make it evolution. There is more sex, but that isn’t growth. After all, isn’t random, unattached sex what humans were doing before we formed societies—before we were civilized?
Here’s what HAS changed: Women who would have been called whores in previous times for exhibiting whorish behavior, today no longer want the label, even though they embrace the actions. The push back is claiming that men are unable to handle the behavior, but if men can’t handle it (which really means men don’t want it), doesn’t that signal that there has been no evolution, particularly since all women aren’t on the same program, leaving men with CHOICES?
There was a time when women kept their sexual partner numbers down because it just made good sense for a lady to do. Now, some just get mad at men for not redefining “lady” and “whore.” Instead of keeping the Poison Principle (from BBD’s song: “Me and the crew used to do her…”), whores now just throw it back on men for being “sensitive.”
Men now hear comments such as: “You are too ‘sensitive’ for not wanting to wife a woman half the town has sexed,” and “If you were a ‘real man,’ you’d be able to handle the fact that your brother and cousin had your fiance first.”
The bottom line is that neither the whole of men nor the whole of women have really evolved with sex and sexuality–we’ve just begun to talk about it more, and some of us have begun to sex more.
If there were a true evolution, the oxytocin that gets released when a woman is held by a man she has been sexed by wouldn’t be as strong. If we were truly evolved, it would no longer be easy to define a whore and a lady–and, let’s be honest, the definitions have not changed.
Comedian Steve Harvey may not have had evolution on his mind when he penned “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man,” but his message certainly added to the confusion. After all, thinking like something typically leads to acting like that same something.
Frankly, it’s not a good idea for men to be whores either, but the consequences are cheaper to pay for.
Whether you agree or not, the great equalizer has been the widespread transmission of sexually transmitted diseases, attaching a very high cost to “free” love.
That ain’t evolution.